JOHANNESURG - Podcaster and entrepreneur Penuel 'the Black Pen' Mlotshwa has written an Open Letter reflecting on Father's Day.
It reads:
My (Penuel) Reflection this Fathers' Day:
Society does not care about fathers
Women have been trained to hate fathers
All we're good for is to provide money, shut up and agree with what women say
Men are not allowed to make mistakes because they are punished for those mistakes forever
Women are never held accountable for their mistakes, but instead men get blamed for women's mistakes
I always wanted to be a father
I always wanted a big family
Life happened & I ended up with 7 beautiful children with 5 beautiful, strong, smart women
Over the years, I got to taste being a father
I enjoyed the beauty, the struggles, the fights, the growth & my bond with my children grew strong
As I think of fathers day today, I can't help but conclude that I've been reduced to a SPERM DONOR.
I'm tired of fighting for my children.
I'm tired of being understanding as to why my children are not in the city they were made & where both their parents were living.
I'm tired of fighting in courts & losing to female biases.
I'm tired of telling my story, to a world that hates listening to the male side.
To a world that emotionally & mentally abuses any man who becomes vulnerable & opens up.
My experiences have brought me immense pain.
They helped me understand why so many men share nothing.
Why so many men suffer is silence.
Why so many men are depressed.
Why many of them ultimately take their lives.
Even experiences with stepchildren left me with scars, because women don't care about a relationship a man has with children... when they are angry, it's all about themselves.
The best advice I can give to all men this fathers day:
Accept that you're nothing more than a SPERM DONOR.
Provide money if/when you can.
Approve all the things the mother says.
Don't share your pain and struggles with anyone.
Focus on your career, time with your friends, exercise and find solace in building yourself into being a great man.
Don't take women to court, unless they are physically harming the child.
Walk away when you're being treated like trash.
Don't provide for kids you can't get access to.
Don't expect women and most men to have pity for you - they don't care.
Fathers' Day is just another commercial gimmick... no real substance.
No deep discussion around false paternity claims.
No reflection on mothers who are keeping kids from their fathers.
No moment of silence for fathers who took their lives due to parental alienation.
No consideration for unemployed men.
No thought for fathers who are raising other men's children.
Just vibes. Socks. Mugs. Airy fairy bullshit.
My love for fatherhood has been killed. I'll never be the same. All my fault, of course.
But I always wanted to be a father.
I had dreams and visions for my children.
But I was denied this... and nobody really cares why.
I don't believe in fathers' day.
I'd rather just carry on working on myself and focusing on what I can control.
Hopefully my access to my children will improve in future... if not, that's okay.
Maybe I'll heal one day... if not, that's okay.
I wish extreme pain on everyone who weaponized my vulnerability as a father & all other fathers who cry out.
Pieces of shit who really don't get it & who join the ignorant mob that's been programmed to self-destruct.
I love my children very much. I hope they'll grow to be strong, smart, wise and independent.
All else is out of my hands.
That's all I have to say.
Gents, keep your head up and protect your minds & peace at all times.
Pen.
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